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saydolly:

Aziz Ansari is like the king of callouts.

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kateordie:

fygirlcrush:

The incredibly talented and super smart Evan Rachel Wood called out the MPAA on their misogynistic, sexist crap after seeing the new cut of her movie and she ain’t wrong. 

I love this. Everything about it.

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thenostalgicaesthetic:

Newsflash, Everyone: Tom Daley Isn’t Gay

He’s queer. And yes, it does make a big difference.

Tom explicitly says in the video that he still “fancies girls,” and he never uses the word “gay,” “homosexual,” or any other synonymous word to describe his sexuality.

The fact that media outlets immediately jump to the conclusion that he’s gay not only contributes to the issue of LGBTQ erasure, it also misrepresents what Tom Daley said, which was exactly what he wanted to avoid by making the YouTube video in the first place.

So get your facts straight everyone. Tom made an incredibly courageous decision in coming out and he deserves our support and respect.

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softrocklevi:

so both tom daley and maria bello have announced, in the past 24 hours, that they are in queer relationships and have been in straight relationships in the past, without actually labeling themselves as gay, but every headline is TOM DALEY COMES OUT AS GAY and MARIA BELLO IS A LESBIAN

the homo/hetero binary is alive and well kids

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asexual-not-a-sexual:

I’ve recieved a lot of requests for a masterpost. 

So…I made one. 

Yeah. 

Like always, contact me with any changes. 

Like always, if you’re going to complain that demisexuality isn’t real, polysexuals are just confused, trans* people are liars, or asexuals need to get laid…. Just, I dunno, stop. 

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But the point, the point, is that whenever I hear someone talking about how it’s wrong to have sex and sexiness in YA novels, what I actually hear is this:

I’m terrified that the first fictional sex a teenage girl encounters might leave her feeling good about herself. I’m terrified that fictional sex might actually make teenage girls think sex can be fun and good, that reading about girls who say no and boys who listen when they say it might give them the confidence to say no, too – or worse still, to realise that boys who don’t listen to ‘no’ aren’t worth it. I’m terrified that YA novels might teach teenage girls the distinction between assault and consensual sex, and give them the courage to speak out about the former while actively seeking the latter. I’m terrified that teenage girls might think seriously about the circumstances under which they might say yes to sex; that they might think about contraception before they need it, and touch themselves in bed at night while fantasising about generous, interesting, beautiful lovers who treat them with consideration and respect. I’m terrified of a generation of teenage girls who aren’t shy or squeamish about asking for cunnilingus when they want it, or about loving more than one person at once, and who don’t feel shame about their arousal. I’m terrified that teenage girls might take control of their sexuality and, in so doing, take that control of them and their bodies away from me.

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- Foz Meadows - Why YA sex scenes matter (via apfelgranate)

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bidyke:

dreams-from-my-father:

yellowfeathersfall:

girljanitor:

youngbadmanbrown:

girljanitor:

cosmicyoruba:

b-sama:


The matter is made worse by the Himba culture of open sex being a normal part of their culture, however these German SEX tourist are taking advantage of the Young girls for their selfish sexual desire to have sex with what they call “African Bush Girls”

#The first sentence reveals there is something disturbing about how Namibians, Motswana and South Africans regard certain ethnic groups , but thats not a conversation for tumblr… 

So this is a thing? Dear heavens.

yeah, it’s a thing


Uh, I’ve see the set that that photo of the topless white woman came from. What does it have to do with sex tourism? Is that why she was there?

[TW: hypersexualization, objectification, assault]
To be perfectly honest, I have no idea why this woman was there or her intentions. Photos like these bother the shit out of me because I find them exploitative and disingenuous, and I have way too much knowledge of history and current events in relation to colonialism and “anthropology” to ever really be comfortable with photos like these.
I have very strong convictions in regard to the way popular media is largely regarded as a template for what is considered acceptable in our society, and the ways in which that directly translates into harm done to real, actual people in the world.
“Let’s get sexy with the natives” is a fucking hot-button issue with me and I ain’t never gonna let that shit go.
Just because one photos is a white man “getting sexy with the natives” and one is a white woman “getting sexy with the natives” doesn’t really generate ANY more benefits of the doubt in me. As if a white woman never fucking called me a squaw and grabbed up on my shit. No, no, no, no, no.

this shit, right here…

I really don’t know what to think for real.
I am feeling quite uneasy about the comments above because I think they are the illustration of what we have been talking on this website for some time now. The total inability for POC in position of power over other POC to analyse the realities of those POC they have power on, without filtering it through their own concepts as relatively privileged POC and hence making it all about themselves. This, as we have discussed here through the case of western privilege DOES lead to oppression.
There are many ‘hierarchical’ levels within oppressed POC groups. First there is western-privilege, then among non-westerns, those who live within societies that have been penetrated by whiteness can and do oppress those who don’t. For instance, Pygmies in my country being oppressed by non-indigenous people. 
TBH the comments above do not vary that much from the original comment that I find extremely problematic. They essentially totally fail to acknowledge Himba women’s mental autonomy and self-determination. They see these women as nothing else but helpless and clueless creatures who have no fucking idea what the baddy white folks are doing to them or what is going on. ‘Oh shit those poor savages are unaware that they are being exploited, please save them’ And this is directly linked to the white supremacist notion of indegenous peoples as ‘stupid savages’. 
I find it extremely depressing that NO ONE here seemed to have stopped for a second and asked themselves: “How do these Himba women live the situation?” “How are things from their point of view?”
For instance the fact that the picture of the Himba women touching that white woman’s breast (If my eyes are betraying me, please correct me because it is pretty clear to me that the Himba women are the ones engaging in the act of touching that woman’s breast) become about “hypersexualization, objectification, assault” then leads to “As if a white woman never fucking called me a squaw and grabbed up on my shit” is quite clear to me that all this is about your own projections that have NOTHING to do with what is going on or how those who should be our main focus here, i.e. Himba women, are experiencing it!
This is just so startling to me. Once again, western codes about sexuality that conceive breast as inherently sexual are used to read the actions of women who CLEARLY have a different relationship with their body!
Himbas are absolutely exceptional, resourceful and brilliant people who have managed until now to resist whiteness attacks on their culture and identity and preserve their lifestyle SUCCESSFULLY! Obviously I am not saying that everything is perfect and the struggle is not hard but rather than using your western and deeply white-washed doctrines about race relations, we are the ones who should actually learn from them!! STOP REDUCING THESE WOMEN TO THE STATUS OF VICTIMS NEEDING SAVING! Please once again, correct me if I am wrong but NO MENTION of sexual assault was made. So why would you necessarily see women from a culture that seems to be quite sexually permissive, engaging in sex with white men, or something that YOU read as sexual such as touching a white woman’s breast, as victims of “assault”?? Where does this come from if it is not all about YOU?? When some people think that certain things are harmful to others out of nowhere, we all know how shit like this ends up!
Try and listen to their voices and see things from their point of view.  
Not doing something this basic and essential is a flagrant sign of privilege that is not acknowledged!! Instead, everybody is reading this from the point of view of white people, or their own points of view as POC living in the west while failing to realise that things might not be experienced the same way by these Himba women, as I have mentioned here!
This is crucial! You can NOT help people if you dont listen to their voice or put their experience and perception of it at the centre of your analysis. Being privileged over them while doing so, can ONLY lead to oppression.

Wow, fascinating commentary (especially that last one). Thank you!

bidyke:

dreams-from-my-father:

yellowfeathersfall:

girljanitor:

youngbadmanbrown:

girljanitor:

cosmicyoruba:

b-sama:

The matter is made worse by the Himba culture of open sex being a normal part of their culture, however these German SEX tourist are taking advantage of the Young girls for their selfish sexual desire to have sex with what they call “African Bush Girls”

#The first sentence reveals there is something disturbing about how Namibians, Motswana and South Africans regard certain ethnic groups , but thats not a conversation for tumblr… 

So this is a thing? Dear heavens.

yeah, it’s a thing

image

Uh, I’ve see the set that that photo of the topless white woman came from. What does it have to do with sex tourism? Is that why she was there?

[TW: hypersexualization, objectification, assault]

To be perfectly honest, I have no idea why this woman was there or her intentions. Photos like these bother the shit out of me because I find them exploitative and disingenuous, and I have way too much knowledge of history and current events in relation to colonialism and “anthropology” to ever really be comfortable with photos like these.

I have very strong convictions in regard to the way popular media is largely regarded as a template for what is considered acceptable in our society, and the ways in which that directly translates into harm done to real, actual people in the world.

“Let’s get sexy with the natives” is a fucking hot-button issue with me and I ain’t never gonna let that shit go.

Just because one photos is a white man “getting sexy with the natives” and one is a white woman “getting sexy with the natives” doesn’t really generate ANY more benefits of the doubt in me. As if a white woman never fucking called me a squaw and grabbed up on my shit. No, no, no, no, no.

this shit, right here…

I really don’t know what to think for real.

I am feeling quite uneasy about the comments above because I think they are the illustration of what we have been talking on this website for some time now. The total inability for POC in position of power over other POC to analyse the realities of those POC they have power on, without filtering it through their own concepts as relatively privileged POC and hence making it all about themselves. This, as we have discussed here through the case of western privilege DOES lead to oppression.

There are many ‘hierarchical’ levels within oppressed POC groups. First there is western-privilege, then among non-westerns, those who live within societies that have been penetrated by whiteness can and do oppress those who don’t. For instance, Pygmies in my country being oppressed by non-indigenous people. 

TBH the comments above do not vary that much from the original comment that I find extremely problematic. They essentially totally fail to acknowledge Himba women’s mental autonomy and self-determination. They see these women as nothing else but helpless and clueless creatures who have no fucking idea what the baddy white folks are doing to them or what is going on. ‘Oh shit those poor savages are unaware that they are being exploited, please save them’ And this is directly linked to the white supremacist notion of indegenous peoples as ‘stupid savages’. 

I find it extremely depressing that NO ONE here seemed to have stopped for a second and asked themselves: “How do these Himba women live the situation?” “How are things from their point of view?”

For instance the fact that the picture of the Himba women touching that white woman’s breast (If my eyes are betraying me, please correct me because it is pretty clear to me that the Himba women are the ones engaging in the act of touching that woman’s breast) become about “hypersexualization, objectification, assault” then leads to “As if a white woman never fucking called me a squaw and grabbed up on my shit” is quite clear to me that all this is about your own projections that have NOTHING to do with what is going on or how those who should be our main focus here, i.e. Himba women, are experiencing it!

This is just so startling to me. Once again, western codes about sexuality that conceive breast as inherently sexual are used to read the actions of women who CLEARLY have a different relationship with their body!

Himbas are absolutely exceptional, resourceful and brilliant people who have managed until now to resist whiteness attacks on their culture and identity and preserve their lifestyle SUCCESSFULLY! Obviously I am not saying that everything is perfect and the struggle is not hard but rather than using your western and deeply white-washed doctrines about race relations, we are the ones who should actually learn from them!! STOP REDUCING THESE WOMEN TO THE STATUS OF VICTIMS NEEDING SAVING! Please once again, correct me if I am wrong but NO MENTION of sexual assault was made. So why would you necessarily see women from a culture that seems to be quite sexually permissive, engaging in sex with white men, or something that YOU read as sexual such as touching a white woman’s breast, as victims of “assault”?? Where does this come from if it is not all about YOU?? When some people think that certain things are harmful to others out of nowhere, we all know how shit like this ends up!

Try and listen to their voices and see things from their point of view.  

Not doing something this basic and essential is a flagrant sign of privilege that is not acknowledged!! Instead, everybody is reading this from the point of view of white people, or their own points of view as POC living in the west while failing to realise that things might not be experienced the same way by these Himba women, as I have mentioned here!

This is crucial! You can NOT help people if you dont listen to their voice or put their experience and perception of it at the centre of your analysis. Being privileged over them while doing so, can ONLY lead to oppression.

Wow, fascinating commentary (especially that last one). Thank you!

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genderedintelligence:

Terrence Higgins Trust have produced free booklets addressing the sexual health and wellbeing needs of trans men and women. 
Direct links to PDF copies of the booklets can be found online here:
Trans Health Matters: Trans Women
Trans Health Matters: Trans Men
Or you can order up to 3 hard copies for free from Terrence Higgins Trust here.

genderedintelligence:

Terrence Higgins Trust have produced free booklets addressing the sexual health and wellbeing needs of trans men and women. 

Direct links to PDF copies of the booklets can be found online here:

Trans Health Matters: Trans Women

Trans Health Matters: Trans Men

Or you can order up to 3 hard copies for free from Terrence Higgins Trust here.

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"I feel most people’s sexuality is enormously complicated. That’s what it means to be human. Wouldn’t it be great if we honored that complexity rather than turn it into gossip or ridicule? Wouldn’t it be great if we accepted sexual diversity, in ourselves and others, without condemning it?"
- Janet Jackson  (via fancydressmasks)

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fuckyeahsexeducation:

transgenderstudentlife:

coffeeandchips:

transgenderstudentlife:

lostamongthestars:

gender-interrupted:

genderedge:

knowhomo:

LGBTQ* Charts and Spectrum

I feel like each of those lines needs to be a three dimensional graph of a wibbly wobbly thing including asexuality and non-binary genders, but the categories (eg orientation, behavior, and identity all being separate) are wonderful. A very interesting way of looking at things to say the least.

Um. What. Gender identity? What? My gender identity is not “transgender” just bc I’m non binary. I have a name for it thank you very much. And, you can be male or female identifying AND transgender.
This is so many types of wrong. This shit isn’t linear any more than it is binary.

Interesting, I didn’t think of that. I guess I read it as transgender* rather than transgender. I often recognize transgender* as more inclusive of gender identity versus transgender, which is not necessarily a gender identity (it can be, but is not always). 
What do other people think? Submit something or ask.

Whoops, posted this on the wrong blog. Here’s the right one :]

It completely ignores asexuals, celibates, people with differing romantic and sexual orientations (by reducing them to a single graph making it impossible to pick a spot if they differ), the genderfluid, people with fluid gender expressions, and people who are agendered (or otherwise not on a male-female spectrum). And probably a few more groups that don’t come immediately to mind. I also agree that transgender may not be the best term for anything between male and female.

^ good points

I really wish people would stop using lines to try to explain this stuff. It’s really getting annoying because it is SO inaccurate.

fuckyeahsexeducation:

transgenderstudentlife:

coffeeandchips:

transgenderstudentlife:

lostamongthestars:

gender-interrupted:

genderedge:

knowhomo:

LGBTQ* Charts and Spectrum

I feel like each of those lines needs to be a three dimensional graph of a wibbly wobbly thing including asexuality and non-binary genders, but the categories (eg orientation, behavior, and identity all being separate) are wonderful. A very interesting way of looking at things to say the least.

Um. What. Gender identity? What? My gender identity is not “transgender” just bc I’m non binary. I have a name for it thank you very much. And, you can be male or female identifying AND transgender.

This is so many types of wrong. This shit isn’t linear any more than it is binary.

Interesting, I didn’t think of that. I guess I read it as transgender* rather than transgender. I often recognize transgender* as more inclusive of gender identity versus transgender, which is not necessarily a gender identity (it can be, but is not always). 

What do other people think? Submit something or ask.

Whoops, posted this on the wrong blog. Here’s the right one :]

It completely ignores asexuals, celibates, people with differing romantic and sexual orientations (by reducing them to a single graph making it impossible to pick a spot if they differ), the genderfluid, people with fluid gender expressions, and people who are agendered (or otherwise not on a male-female spectrum). And probably a few more groups that don’t come immediately to mind. I also agree that transgender may not be the best term for anything between male and female.

^ good points

I really wish people would stop using lines to try to explain this stuff. It’s really getting annoying because it is SO inaccurate.

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“It’s important to clarify that sex education that teaches about pleasure doesn’t have to teach about technique (though elective college-level sex education that does this is great). Letting teens know that women usually achieve orgasm through the rubbing of the clitoris, whether fingers, mouth, object, or penis, isn’t the same as screening an instructional video on giving good cunnilingus. It’s not the same as writing down the names of sex-toy shops on the blackboard, or handing out diagrams of cool and exciting coital positions. And teaching that lubricants reduce pain and increase safety and pleasure during many kinds of sex should be thought of not as performance advice, but on par with vital lessons about condom use.

Real sex education is not the same as porn education. Instead, it’s about teaching that pleasure is an important part of any sexual relationship. It’s about teaching that there is nothing wrong with wanting to feel sexual pleasure and seeking it out, so long as it is done safely and responsibly. It’s about teaching comfort with one’s body and a lack of shame over desires, and there is more to sex for all people than sticking penises into vaginas. Real sex education teaches how to go about making intelligent , safe choices, rather than just stating the choices available. I believe there is a big difference. And I believe that teaching teens to make smart choices about sex must involve teaching them that having sex, partnered or alone, can be a smart choice”.

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Real Sex Education by Cara Kulwicki in Yes Means Yes

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